If at anytime in the back of your mind you are interested more in where and with who your partner is spending time with rather than calling to speak to him or her, then you are smothering. If you call your partner more than two or three times a day and more on the days that you do not see each other, your partner will feel trapped. Instead of having time to appreciate you from afar, he or she is running towards the exit. One way to get over this type of smothering act is to occupy yourself. If you are busy, then you will not have time to make your frequent calls.
Do you try to spend every waking moment with your partner? At first it may be a sweet gesture but after a while there must be some sort of separation between the two of you. If you are forcing your partner to give up seeing his or her friends, just to spend time with you then you are definitely smothering your significant other. People love to talk about how great their partner is, but how can yours if you do not let him or her out of your site. Normally, your insecurities in the relationship cause you to try to take control over your partner’s life. The less time he or she has to their self, the less your partner is going to want to stick around.
Love naturally leaves you. You think about this person positively and you do not find it necessary to get in contact every time you think about this person. Give yourself some space to see how much your partner loves you. See the things that he or she will do for your love. You will notice that there is a lot less fighting and many more romantic gestures when you allow this space for your relationship and individuality to grow. It is difficult for many people at first, once they realize that they have been smothering rather than loving. But recognizing this crucial dating mistake is half the battle. Now all you have to do is find ways to separate yourself a bit. You will go from having a rocky relationship to a rock solid one.