If you have been in a relationship or marriage and wondered what indeed happened to have it ended it so abruptly, then you are not alone in your most current dilemma. Many people across the country are experiencing this and do not have the right tools to deal with a broken marriage or relationship most effectively.

What if this person has already left and you wanted to get him or her back into your life? How do you approach this when this person obviously doesn't want to talk to you or have anything to do with you anymore? You will have to give this sometime until the dust settles before you approach this delicate situation.

Perhaps the greatest indicator of a failing marriage can be the thought of how and why it lasted for so long. Were you trying to keep it going because of the kids or because the finances just kept a barrier around your relationship to try to keep things intact and miserable?

In any case, you have to understand that a relationship or marriage is like a plant that needs constant nurturing attention, affection and compassion. Always trying to win a argument in a relationship really has no clear and true winner because you still hurt each other in the long run.

As you struggle with the matters of an ex lover, consider that this scenario happens a lot and if you don't know how to deal with it the right way you may lose this person forever. Remember that the first time that your ex breaks away from you, consider a month apart from each other as the turning point to getting them back by either changing your life and opinions about things.

But what do you do if your ex doesn't want to see you? Write a hand written letter to this person stating that you are currently happy in your life and that you have moved on to better things that are occupying your mind at this moment. Allow your ex to realize that there were no hard feeling in the breakup and that things are ok.