We've all heard that in relationships "opposites attract," and we see examples of this all the time. Quiet, nonverbal types feel drawn to expressive, verbal mates, and vice versa. Shy introverts and outgoing extroverts gravitate towards each other. Carefree, unpredictable people partner with reliable, responsible individuals. The list goes on and on.

The same holds true with money values, and this is why money issues eventually become such a sensitive topic for so many couples. As with personality traits, we are naturally inclined to partner with someone whose financial values are opposite, or at least very different from, our own. You'll see spendthrifts partnering with tightwads, drawn to their stability. Planners fascinate dreamers. Those who avoid money worries appeal to those who worry about money.

Why is that? Generally speaking, we tend to seek romantic partners who complement us personality-wise, partners who have traits and strengths that we admire but may not possess to the same degree. And for a while, especially throughout the honeymoon stage of a relationship, that works for us. We appreciate and rely on those qualities where we differ from our partner.

What happens over time is, these once endearing differences between us and our partners become polarizing differences; in other words, they begin to disrupt our relationship harmony and instead create discord in our relationships. The avoider begins to become frustrated with the money worrier. The spendthrift causes stress in the tightwad. Planners become impatient with dreamers. The very money values we originally found attractive now drive us to distraction.

This is when the disagreements start, resulting in further polarization between the partners. Over time these actions and arguments can drive once-committed partners apart.

The thing is, rarely is one partner completely right or completely wrong when it comes to money values. More than likely there are admirable traits as well as areas for growth in both partners' approaches to money. The solution to this disparity, and the hope of restoring harmony to the relationship, lie somewhere in the middle. Both partners need to first understand their own approaches to dealing with money, and then acknowledge something that they admire and would like to emulate in each other's money perspective. Only then can they begin to bridge the money values gap between them.

It takes communication to overcome money disagreements--admitting our imperfections to ourselves, as well as traits we secretly envy in our partners. In doing so, we begin to take steps towards restoring the harmony and closeness that were once the foundation of our relationship.

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Most people find themselves in a relationship where it is hard to deal with.  They are not sure or certain whether it will lat or not.  This kind of uncertainty makes room for worry and distress in a relationship. So, how can you really make things better for you both in the long run?  You must ask yourself if you still have the same goals as each other and what it will take to get there together.

Have you asked yourselves this at all?  Are you showing enough compassion and affection to one another? Remember that this is always key in making things work out.  But the methods on doing this is so broad and will take some time to absorb in o the mind. This is how many successful relationships last.  Having the knowledge for making a relationship work always helps us all out in the long run.

Troubled marriages or relationships are sometimes a hard thing to deal with, if you don't know how to go about it. How do you know if you are ready for the future and all that it holds?  Will the relationship or marriage last or are you destined to be with another person?  Is this the common occurrence that life has to be like? 

I have lost 2 kids in a previous marriage and knowing that I can't be there with them, disturbs me each day. But, we all have to move on with whom we are with and grow within ourselves for the better as.

I wondered today if  we are to have the same fate as are parents when it comes to our relationships.  So many things to decipher here.  What if our current situation with our partners or spouses are only contracted for a  certain time in life until we move on to the next.  I really don't like to think of that idea especially if kids are involved. 

We try to make things work until our last breathe it seems. But how long will this have to be.  I love the new Mariah Carey song. The revised  title named. "I want to know what love is"  Remember that one?  She sings it so well. Give it a listen to if you have a chance. Here is a sample: www.youtube.com/watch?v=JS_ZJj79-9M

It brings the song back in a whole new light from the original and it makes you wonder if you have really experienced true love in your lives. Can you say that spouse or partner "wows" you every time you see them? Like "wow,  she is just a wonderful person and I thank God I have him or her in my life.  Is it exciting to see them every day with that electricity that was once felt early on in the relationship?

Nevertheless, if you have found that "wowness" in your relationship then try to do everything you can to keep it because it doesn't come around often!

Relationships can be a tricky thing, if you can help it. Working on your relationship and seeing it succeed first hand can prove to be quite satisfying and instrumental for the happiness of your future.

If you have ever felt that the one you love has lost their way of affection with you, then you can be sure that it may or may not get worse if you leave it as it is and ignore it.

Life is unpredictable and determining a worthwhile solution may help you come up with the most probable solution in your current or lost relationship.