There a few issues that often create stress in marriage. Some of these can be fatal to the relationship if they aren't addressed and confronted out right. The two biggest are typically financial issues and sex. Both of these things can be like a time bomb ticking under the surface of your marriage. It will go off if you don't defuse it first.

I won't say much about financial issues here but I will say that my own experience with being in a sexless marriage meant that it got to the point several times over the years where I was ready to call it quits and move on. Judging by the statistics I wasn't really alone given that there's an estimated one in five couples who do not regularly have sex together. For those who are wondering, a sexless relationship can be defined as a marriage in which the partners never have sex together or a marriage in which sex occurs once or twice a month at most.

If there's no physical intimacy between you and your spouse you start to feel as though you've lost an essential and fundamental connection with your partner. There can be a lot of reasons why partners don't address sexual issues in a marriage. This might include embarrassment about speaking about it openly, resentment, or even the fear of rejection if it was brought up.

Some may argue that sex is not necessary to have a happy marriage. And that's true if both partners feel equally that it's not essential to their relationship to have sex and that without it they'll still feel good about the marriage. But for most of us not having sex leaves at least one partner feeling angry, ashamed, frustrated, or unloved. Because of these issues we really do have to attempt to fix a sexless marriage.

But what about the situation in which you've tried to address the issue with your partner time and again without any luck? If this occurs you need to ask yourself four questions:

First: Have you really been using an effective means of trying to fix your sexless marriage?

Second: What is the actual issue that's been interfering with physical intimacy between the two of you?

Third: Are there outside issues that aren't under your control that are resulting in a lack of sex?

And, most importantly, does your partner appear to be interested in increasing the frequency of sex between you or do they seem resolutely against being physically intimate with you?

Answering these four questions will give you some idea of whether you should continue to attempt to fix your marriage. Using the correct approach to resolving sex problems between the two of you will give you a better opportunity of being intimate together.

Just remember that the longer you wait to confront the issue of a sexless marriage the longer your problems will continue and the greater the likelihood you'll have problems down the road. You can take a big first step today just by getting more information about how you can change a sexless relationship to one that is more deeply fulfilling to each of you.

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