There’s not much time left in the game and your favorite team is down by a goal. The normal plays haven’t worked, but now, with nothing left to lose your team opens up a solid offense. The plays become more darting, the pitch opens up and suddenly …

Relationships are much the same way. We often lose track of why we are dating someone, we forget the things that made us happy to spend time with them, and before we recognize it/s happened that partner has left us. To get them back we step gingerly into asking for forgiveness, but the trick is to act with more urgency earlier. The most common mistake of a recently single partner is to think that waiting it out is the right call, instead you need to make gestures, not suffocating your partner, by letting them know that you made a mistake.

Flowers, chocolates and cards are always recognized as significant gestures of admiration. Try to also throw in gift certificates to some of your partner’s favorite clothing stores, or online merchandisers. You want to show that you recognize their interests, that with you there will always be an opportunity to be heard and understood – that you failed the first time, but won’t the second time.

There are dating sites to help you if you fail to recover your relationship. But don’t give in too soon and don’t be a wallflower. Take the lead; motivate yourself to become proactive in searching for the partner that got away. And when the time comes, open up your options and show them that they are your best friend and lover. Be sure to take the shot when it becomes available.

 By Eric J. Leech

How well do you know your partner? This subject has been covered countless times in magazines and books. While these love guru's often claim the most important information comes from past sexual escapades, prenuptial expectations, and gambling fancies, in truth, the most important knowledge comes from everyday conversation, not glorified quizzes. Here's a list of questions you should be able to answer by the first year mark of your relationships.

·  Where was your partner born? What is their biggest accomplishment, greatest strength, favorite dream, and worst fear?

If you do not know where your partner came from or where they are going, how can you expect to help with their goals or know when they finally get there?

·  Who is your partners best friend, favorite relative, full name of both parents (including mothers maiden name?)

Friends and family are very important to most of us, and you should make the effort to know as much about your partners extended family as you do your own.

·  What words would your partner use to describe you (and no, sh!# head doesn't count)?

Couples who communicate well, know where they stand with each other and are confident in the overall happiness and satisfaction they offer their partner. If you're not sure where you stand, then you haven't taken the time to really listen.

• What would your partner say are your most annoying habits/traits?

We all have bad habits, whether it's a temper, tendency to be messy, or preference to set the toothpaste cap on top, versus twisting it closed. It's the little things that make the difference in a successful partnership, such as a love note here, a picked-up sock there, or finishing the last teaspoon of milk because you know putting it back in the fridge really irks him or her.

·  What is your partners shoe, shirt, and pant/dress size?

Knowing your partner from the inside-out, means knowing their physical attributes along with their emotional and spiritual. With such knowledge comes the opportunity to bring about a special thoughtfulness beyond the standard gift card. Sometimes men are not so good at picking out clothing, but it really is the thought that counts, as long as the size is right and the receipt is easily accessible.

·  What is your partners cell phone number (by memory, not typed in your phone), blood type, known allergies, donor preferences, belief of life support, and burial wishes?

You never know when an emergency may come along. This is why you should always know your partners work, cell, and immediate family's phone numbers in case you need to reach them. We often take it for granted that our partner will always be there. Live each day as if it were your last, loving your partner as if they were your first!

·  What is your partners favorite hobby, vacation spot, movie, and restaurant?

Activities are a great way to bond with a partner, but if you don't know what they like to do, you have already missed out on this opportunity.

·  Where would your partner prefer to live? What kind of house, furniture, picket fence, garden, or pets do they want?

It's amazing how few couples have sat down and painted a (mental) picture as to how they see the relationship 20 to 40 years down the road. If your partner dismisses these questions almost as quickly as they were brought up, perhaps a future may not exactly be on their “to do” list.

·  What's your partners favorite position (missionary, cowboy, or lazy boy)? How much sex do they need? What are their sexual deal breakers (bondage, swinging, etc), and how many children do they want (if any)?

How well do you know your partner sexually? If you're building a long-term relationship, make sure you are on the same page, or at least somewhere in the middle of the next page (by compromise). Fifty percent of all married and unmarried couples are dissatisfied in the bedroom, but only a small portion ever do anything about it. The solution begins by talking, and finding the answers to these questions.

·  Is your partner as comfortable with a toilet brush in their hand, as they are the remote control? How much financial security is necessary for them to feel secure?

Chores and money are a big source of relationship stress, so it is a good idea to know where your partner stands, and make any adjustments necessary to ensure they are comfortable with the direction the relationship is headed.

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