Troubled marriages or relationships are sometimes a hard thing to deal with, if you don't know how to go about it. How do you know if you are ready for the future and all that it holds?  Will the relationship or marriage last or are you destined to be with another person?  Is this the common occurrence that life has to be like? 

I have lost 2 kids in a previous marriage and knowing that I can't be there with them, disturbs me each day. But, we all have to move on with whom we are with and grow within ourselves for the better as.

I wondered today if  we are to have the same fate as are parents when it comes to our relationships.  So many things to decipher here.  What if our current situation with our partners or spouses are only contracted for a  certain time in life until we move on to the next.  I really don't like to think of that idea especially if kids are involved. 

We try to make things work until our last breathe it seems. But how long will this have to be.  I love the new Mariah Carey song. The revised  title named. "I want to know what love is"  Remember that one?  She sings it so well. Give it a listen to if you have a chance. Here is a sample: www.youtube.com/watch?v=JS_ZJj79-9M

It brings the song back in a whole new light from the original and it makes you wonder if you have really experienced true love in your lives. Can you say that spouse or partner "wows" you every time you see them? Like "wow,  she is just a wonderful person and I thank God I have him or her in my life.  Is it exciting to see them every day with that electricity that was once felt early on in the relationship?

Nevertheless, if you have found that "wowness" in your relationship then try to do everything you can to keep it because it doesn't come around often!

What do you do if your wife or husband displays the attitude that you are just useless and is always grumpy when they are around you?  This is definitely quite an uncomfortable feeling. Sometimes it doesn't even matter how good you look, the expressive attitudes that you don't do nothing around the house when you really do signifies a miserable marriage boiling to something much hotter in the future? 

What if he or she currently tells you that they are miserable in the marriage?  I mean what do you do?  Do you let them go or even suggest it? You take her out and do things with her in the weekend and sometimes this doesn't seem to be good enough?  So what is really missing? Sometimes I feel that one day I will just move on from all of this because some attitudes just become so intolerable to live with. And what about the constant lack of affection?

What about if kids are on the way?  Kids to the rescue?  Perhaps this will save the boring relationship? When everything else you do seems to fail. Perhaps he or she is not the one for you? These are feelings that I think about when I right this post. What really makes the marriage boring?   Is it the location of residence or the fact that the struggling of the finances leaves us no room for some kind of enjoyment?

I mean what else can a man do you know?  Stick around for the kids sake and hope it will get better?  Wishful thinking.  I am always hopeful for the future but sometimes things don't work that way but it's better to be optimistic and nurture the relationship because this ultimately makes things better for all of us.